Re: What Can Happen When a Sports Parent Pushes Too Hard

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Posted by Exactly on March 10, 2017 at 10:06:57:

In Reply to: Re: What Can Happen When a Sports Parent Pushes Too Hard posted by This is so sad on March 10, 2017 at 08:14:17:

: : If your child is playing competitive sports, this article is a MUST read.

: :: I'm very happy that I NEVER did this my daughter. I would tell parents sometimes at these basketball games "Think about what you're doing to your daughter?" Sometimes (especially the Dad's) - they'd be ready to fight. Mind your own $#^% business! You just worry about your (sorry) daughter. Stuff like that.

: Later - if I could manage it without being too obvious, I would whisper to the berated girl in passing, "you did a great job out there - keep it up!" Other times - when it was appropriate, I would say it in front of her family and friends.

: What you "Basketball Dads" out there (and now some of the MOMs?) don't, but should realize? is that - your daughter feels BAD ENOUGH already when she missed the free throw that so-called "cost" the team the game. Or she got a pick set on her that enabled the winning 3 pointer. You don't have to punish them. They punish themselves. What YOU should be doing is providing (LIMITED) constructive feedback - and re-affirm her. Don't be an amplifier - be an insulator. Shield her. Protect her emotionally. Build her up.

: And she will respond.

I try to do what you do with players who parents just go off on them.

They play hard but for whatever reason have a bad game or make mistakes or whatever.

So I will make a point to go to those girls after games or tournaments and make sure they know their efforts and work is appreciated.

And a lot of times, I will have my daughter text the girl too so she knows her teammates have her back.

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