Posted by Stay with your current team on November 14, 2017 at 18:29:47:
In Reply to: Re: Club team asked about my daughter switching teams posted by My 2 Cents on November 14, 2017 at 15:47:51:
: : : : Had a strange situation come up recently.
: : : : My daughter (8th grade) plays for a club that isn't one of the "elite" clubs, but has stayed with it for 3 years. She's improved tremendously, loves to play, and has grown physically just in the last 6 months or so. She wants to play in high school and talks about college, but we're fairly realistic and just support her in what she wants to do and will just let things play out, as long as she stays on top of school.
: : : : At a tournament recently someone I don't know at all approached me and started asking about her, then identified himself as a coach for one of the "elite" clubs. He then started to tell me about all the potential benefits of switching to their club, the exposure playing on their national team, college scholarships, etc. and capped it off by saying we wouldn't have to pay to join.
: : : : I get that a bigger, more well-known club would probably have some benefits, but she's happy playing with her teammates and has gotten better, and I was a little taken aback by this approach. But is it something we should even consider if she really does want to play beyond high school? Checking out this forum actually scares me sometimes, all the crazy stuff that people say on here. Hard to know what the best thing to do is. Either way, I don't think we'll even think about it until later on in high school but just wanted to see if there were any rational opinions out there.
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: : : Like yourself I feel its a thin line between wanting to post on here or just walk away, SOME people don't have anything better to do than to berate young athletes and its hear to stomach. On other hand it could be some decent information on here as well. Anyway in my humble opinion, there are some factors that you have to consider that you might already know but I feel I should say.
: : : I personally dislike when these so-called elite club teams approach kids behind the current coaches back, its a cowardly act and desperate plea for their own benefit, proceed with caution. If your daughter enjoys playing for her club team at this point and you see the improvement then I suggest to stay or at least until this season is over. Once she reaches high school then maybe look into a club that can help her reach her goals. Don't look for words like Elite attached to the name, sometimes it can be misleading. Plenty of good clubs out there to choose from.
: : : When you ready don't be afraid to look into the history of that club and ask around. If they are who they say they are, people will know and will have all the information you need.
: : : GOOD LUCK, TRAIN TO PLAY!!!
: Have to concur here. I don't have respect for coaches who try to "poach" other teams best players.
: It's different if you approach them, but for them to approach you is just kind of slimy.
: Here's the thing. If your daughter enjoys her team and coach, and you believe she is improving, then just leave her there.
: If you have a good relationship with your coach, and you believe them to be level-headed, you can ask them about it.
: The "big" clubs go through high school, while many of the "boutique" clubs are more youth oriented.
: I know plenty of "boutique" club coaches who, if your daughter is that talented or potentially so, will want her to succeed and help you find a better fit if necessary. Many won't, but hopefully you are part of a good club that does feel that way.
: One other potential thing to think about. These big "shoe teams" offer all this free stuff (tuition, gear, travel, etc.). With the ongoing FBI investigation, NIKE will most likely be pulling out of the high school travel scene in the next couple of years; and then that free stuff is no longer going to be free.
: Also, if you aren't on their National EYBL team, or their National 15U team, nothing is free and you are basically paying for everyone who is on those teams.
: Lastly, the most important thing is your daughter having fun. If she isn't having fun, one day she is just going to say she is done.
: Good luck!
So here is my take. If that "Elite Club Team" really wants your daughter they will compromise. Let them know that you are very happy with her current development with her current team. She will be available to play with your "Elite" team at all of the top viewing tournaments and National tournaments. If they won't agree then don't play with them. Just remember that she can only play for one team in the viewing tournaments and National tournaments, so if her original club team plays, she'll have to make a decision on whom she wants to play with. Remember, at this level, it's not about winning the games now. It's how much exposure your daughter gets. Would she be happy playing 10 minutes on an "Elite" team or 35 minutes on her original team.
Then financially, if they really want her, there should be no cost for you to play with them. Put the pressure back on them and see what they are willing to compromise on.
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