Re: Opportune time for holdback?

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Posted by coach on March 24, 2020 at 08:52:43:

In Reply to: Re: Opportune time for holdback? posted by yo on March 23, 2020 at 17:59:22:

: : : : : : : If I was a parent of a young 13 year old who is in the 8th grade, because of the school closures (which will probably stay until the end of school), this would be a great opportunity to hold back my child - they’ve missed most of their AAU schedule and training plus almost a third of their academic year. Why not repeat 8th grade, gain another year of both club play and academics while maturing more before high school? Sounds smart to me.

: : : : : : In order to get better you play up, not DOWN in competition. It amazes me these hold backs think they get better being a big fish in a little pond. It catches up to them by sophomore year.The only exception to holding back this year is start of next school year is postponed based on the virus.One will need to make that decision in May!

: : : : : No guarantee that anything will be up and running again by fall as well. Things not looking too good, this may be last a lot longer than anyone wishes to accept. No precedent for any of this.

: : : : : If I were a parent of a 13 year old, I would ask him what he wants and not make the decision for him. How would you like to be put into a class with people that aren't your friends. Parents treat it as if it is such a simple thing. They will adjust, no doubt, but the first year is hard. I know this from coaching numerous hold backs and talking to them about it.

: : : : Easy to do this. Hold them back 2 years and have him be a 6’4 18 year old sophomore and then every private school will take him. Can’t hold your kid back a year and not change schools.

: : : : Holding back your boy is ALWAYS the best athletic move. First off, they get the extra year of growth, they get to be the oldest, bigger and stronger compared to the other kids in their class, and as far as social issues, they may be upset about it for short time, but they will get over the initial stage, they will still keep all of their friends, make a bunch of new friends, and have all of the confidence and benefits of being the best athlete and oldest kid in their class. First to drive, mome mature, physically and mentally, and the confidence of being one of the top athletes. It goes a long way. The pros FAR OUTWEIGH the cons.

: : the last poster is a fool. Grades trump athletics every day. Maybe not for your welfare kid and yourself. Once again, you get better playing up, not down. If you hold back you are really stating to the man in the mirror you are just not good enough to play with your true age group. That is the bottom line. Get good grades and do something with your lives young people and do not let adults use you for their benefits.

: pros outweigh the cons period if you do it once< not twice. no argument

Parents who "hold back" their kid in order to improve the kid's chances of becoming a star are not good parents. They are sending the wrong message. In most cases, nothing positive results from doing this.

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